“…but in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes”
– Benjamin Franklin
While I agree with former
salve owner polymath Benjamin Franklin (never thought I would say that), my list would expand to include: the passage of time and God’s infinite love. Whether I like it or not, I know those four things are certain in my life.
Given that it is Valentine’s Day today, social media (and the retail world) are awash with paraphernalia reminding us of the commercialised ‘holiday’ and what the media portrays as love. Couples use today as an opportunity to extol the covetable virtues of their partners and their love, plus the gifts they receive while single folk either lament and cave in to societal pressures or stand strong and celebrate their love for themsevles and their independence.
Although this is my first Valentine’s Day as a wife, neither my husband nor I are particularly excited by it – admittedly I did tell him that I wanted a Valentine’s card as I love cards and was as excited to buy him as ‘husband’ card as I was to recieve a “wife” one but I digress.
Normally during Valentines Days past, I chose to focus on my love for myself plus the friends and family I love and those who love me too. Not just them, but my relationship with the One who loved me before all of them…for me that is God.
I believe in God – much to some of my agnostic and atheist friends confusion (yes, I have agnostic and atheist friends – my love and time extends past those of the same faith as me). I am not what you would call a loud believer because for me, faith is a personal journey and I have found religion to be problematic more times than I care to recount.
One thing that I am certain of though is God’s unwavering love for me because I have seen and felt it at work numerous times (planning two large and successful weddings in only 7 months reminded me of it that’s for sure). I honestly believe my husband is an expression of God’s love made flesh because he really is the best partner for me.
Having said that, I was content before I met my husband and I knew what real joy and love was on my own because I found that “It is better to trust in the Lord, than to put confidence in man” (Psalms 118:8). I love me so it was possible for me not only to love someone else but to accept love from others.
My favourite Bible passage is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. It was read during the church service at our wedding. It is the type of love that I aspire to give and receive. I am not always patient, but I try to be kind. In fact I struggle with all of the points in that scripture (I recommend you read it if you never have before) but I keep trying. Not just for myself, but for the sake of those who love me.
I do not have a profound life lesson for you today. This is just me, sharing a piece of my heart and my love with you and encouraging you to love yourself [and God] before any thing or anyone else. That being said, below is a combined highlight of our aforementioned weddings accompanied by a poem I wrote 10 years prior to meeting my husband. The words not only apply to him but to so many people in my life. I hope you enjoy and whatever you have done or not done today I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day.
(Videographer and pianist details are in the description on YouTube)