When you make peace with the erratic storms within you
Waves of regret will stop kissing your shores
©Assumpta Ozua 2016
I am yet to make any new year’s resolutions. That’s generally because I don’t believe in them. That’s not to say that I haven’t participated in the experience in the past – I have. But I found it did not work for me personally and many of the people I know because oftentimes, we aren’t ready to change.
The sudden date adjustment coupled with the bandwagon effect leads a lot of people to believe that a miraculous transformation of character will occur but more frequently than not, this isn’t the case and therefore leads to failed resolutions.
While the 1st day of a new year is a great marker, why wait until then to make a change? You can set goals at any time and start working towards them. For instance, a friend of mine asked me to blog consistently a few months ago (I like challenges) and I was managing pretty well until recently.
I beat myself up about my ‘failure’ but I haven’t quit and I’m working on my consistency once more. I’ve simply moved the goalpost but the goal hasn’t changed. Similarly, I bought a gratitude journal in December that I intended on beginning in January but then I asked myself “why wait?” and started writing in it a few days after purchase.
I’d be lying if I said I managed to write in it every day but that hasn’t stopped me trying while I get used to the new habit. I’ll keep going until it’s second nature. When I miss a day – I’ll make it up the next day (I fell asleep writing this post yesterday and therefore didn’t get it up on my designated day but that’s okay, no one died and I can still post it now. I lose when I stop trying).
So, don’t worry if you’re yet to make some resolutions or write your long and short term goals (emphasis on the word write as there’s power in seeing your goals written down in your own handwriting). There’s still time. Just don’t keep procrastinating and make sure you actually get it done. It’s difficult to achieve what you haven’t planned for therefore:
- Create a vision
- Make it measurable
- Set benchmarks
- Celebrate your success
For a little more on this I’d recommend this short piece on Forbes.
Have a productive and blessed week.